On a weekly basis, clients come to me to work on how to better respond to the defensiveness of others – or how to feel and act less defensive themselves. These conversations often begin in the context of meetings and feedback sessions but increasingly extend into more informal settings: dinner table debates, hallway chats, or …
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A kanelbulle (or korvapuusti) enjoyed outside in the spring sun—during that brief, precious hour of good weather that this otherwise chilly day in Turku offered. Visiting my old hometown reminds me once again: Finnish happiness often isn’t about grand, extraordinary moments when everything is perfect. It’s found in the small, meaningful experiences—moments accessible to all, …
All-or-nothing thinking. Also known as black-and-white thinking, it’s a cognitive trap that many of us fall into, especially high achievers, leaders, and entrepreneurs. It’s the voice in your head that says: Sound familiar? This kind of binary thinking simplifies a complex world into extremes. Our brains love simplicity. It saves energy. It creates certainty. But …
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Executive presence is traditionally described as the ability to project confidence, competence, and credibility—qualities that inspire trust, influence others, and command respect. It’s the invisible X-factor that makes people want to follow you, especially in high-stakes situations. In her well-known research-based framework, Sylvia Ann Hewlett, in Executive Presence: The Missing Link Between Merit and Success …
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As someone who works remotely most of the time, I’ve gotten used to the rhythm of home life: the familiar desk, the predictable routines, the same four walls. But last week, I had the chance to step away — even if only briefly — and immerse myself in somewhere different. Somewhere beautiful. Somewhere new. Fresh …
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Building Mental Resilience in an Age of Uncertainty Flicking through the headlines this morning -from Financial Times, CNN, and The Times– I saw several anxiety triggering headlines like “EU Calls for Households to Stockpile 72 Hours of Food Amid War Risks” and “EU Urges Every Household to Stock a Three-Day Crisis Survival Kit.” If you …
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Reclaiming Your Agency: The Choice You Always Have Many mid-career professionals come to me feeling stuck, overwhelmed, and unsure of their strengths and purpose. Often, this frustration stems from a loss of personal agency—the ability to make choices and influence one’s circumstances. The relentless cycle of meetings, emails, and the juggle between career and personal …
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AI & I: A Cautious Friendship with Boundaries I never saw myself as a techie. Despite nearly 15 years in high-tech, my true interests lay in people—social intelligence, communication, and trust. When I transitioned into coaching and consulting, I leaned into these skills, guided by values of authenticity and integrity. So, when the AI wave …
Daring to Fill Space: A Call to Women Many women have a complicated relationship with space—hesitating to take it, yet often filling it with the needs and problems of others. We navigate meetings cautiously, downplay our own needs, and often still carry the hidden load of work and family life. This constant balancing act leaves …
Watching the morning news today once again reminded me of the irony that self-doubt, like empathy, is extremely unevenly distributed. Often, the intelligent, reflective, and empathetic people we need as leaders have too much of it—while others, well… have far too little. Neuroscientific research suggests that the brain processes verbal affirmations similarly to financial rewards. …
